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8 Mar

One of my facebook friends recently posted a link to this… I found it totally funny. A teacher in Washington DC found a list on the floor of her classroom. From what can be gathered, a child, somewhere between the ages of 10 – 14 wrote an extensive list which she/he titled: Types of Bitches. It’s essentially a classification of all the different kinds of bitches this kid has encountered in one way or another. Without further ado:

Types of Bitches

1) Dirty dumb ass bitches
2) Aint got no ass bitches
3) Dusty trick bitches
4) Fishy bitches
5) Don’t know how to fight bitches
6) Got all that mouth but can’t step bitches
7) Ugly looking bitch that think they all that
8) Can’t keep a man bitch
9) Track wearing bitches
10) Bitches that be trying to steal your man
11) Hoochie looking bitches
12) Ain’t got no damn sense bitches
13) Stupid bitches that act dumb
14) Bitches who can only get a dirty boy
15) Want to be jocking bitches
16) Bitches who think their man love them but get pregnant and be left alone
17) Bitches who think they better than me
18) Instigating bitches
19) Talking behind your back bitches
20) Loud mouth bitches
21) Pissy bitches
22) Stingy bitches
23) Funky looking bitches
24) Short hair bitches
25) Spanish bitches who think they all that cause of their hair
26) Bitches that be ignoring you when they know they can hear you
27) Staring in your face bitches
28) Big eyed looking bitches
29) Crazy bitches
30) Nappy tender headed bitches
31) Booty shorts wearing bitches
32) Coast-signing bitches
33) Dick riding bitches
34) Whipped bitches
35) Buck tooth bitches
36) Cheesy teeth bitches
37) Same wearing clothes each day bitches
38) Ghetto bitches
39) Hair dyeing bitches
40) Wearing shoes that be talking bitches
41) Bitches who think they hard
42) Bitches that think they get money
43) Bitches that go to a dirty school
44) (page missing)
45) (page missing)
46) (page missing)
47) (page missing)
48) (page missing)
49) (page missing)
50) (page missing)
51) (page missing)
52) (page missing)
53) (page missing)
54) (page missing)
55) (page missing)
56) (page missing)
57) (page missing)
58) (page missing)
59) Gay bitches
60) Stanky fishy coochie smelling bitches
61) Tomboy bitches
62) Stain on your pants bitches
63) Dry scalp dandruff bitches
64) Dirty hair bitches
65) Stealing bitches
66) Stinky feet bitches
67) Big gap bitches
68) Protecting their store bitches
69) Pajamas outside bitches
70) Ragly braid bitches
71) Stanky butt bitches
72) Greedy bitches
73) Slimy grimy bitches
74) Psycho bitches
75) Drug dealing bitches
76) Geekin’ bitches
77) Suntanning bitches
78) Goofy looking bitches
79) Triflin’ bitches
80) Skanky bitches
81) Mugging bitches
82) Sloppy bitches
83) Dirty fingernails bitches
84) Dirty sock wearing bitches
85) Uncreative bitches
86) White bitches that think black people poor
87) Conceited bitches
88) Tall bitches
89) Short bitches
90) Jealous bitches

So, all of that is sort of hilarious. What was equally intriguing (at least, to me), was the resulting comment section on the blog that posted this. I didn’t read everyone’s opinion (as there are 214 of them at the moment)… but there were some very mixed reviews and I have been thinking about them for the past couple days. I think I agree with this commenter:

  • “These kids are on their way to writing poetry! Hope one of their teachers sees the creativity.”

But then someone said this:

  • “If this kid is the future of America…we’re doomed.”

And then I agreed with this one:

  • “Her English is not important right now. It’s third grade, not college. Error is grammar are going to be made. What IS important is that this child is articulating their thoughts and feelings onto paper, the validity of the thoughts or feelings isn’t in question, but the fact that this girl is writing. Writing about someone, something, her perspective.”

But then someone had to go and say this:

  • “This type of urban “ghetto” culture needs to end. It’s disgusting and it’s unacceptable.”

I think the the bitch list is funny. But this actually made me think about our education system and what is deemed as “appropriate forms” of written expression. This child is clearly noticing certain cultural movements in her (his?) school/city/state/country and expressing her view of them in WRITING! Isn’t this what we want our kids to do? She notices, documents and subtly gives us her opinion on racism, sexism, classism, education, and body issues in her direct community.

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bein’ a beez

23 May

So, the truth, I manage a retail store.  I’m learning a lot about management, leadership and myself. I’ve also learned how to be a bitch. It’s like, one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I hate when people don’t like me.

I don’t mind if people I don’t like, don’t like me, but it has been hard to deal with people who don’t like me because I’m trying to get things done, don’t like me because I have some kind of authority, don’t like me because I make and enforce rules, don’t like me because I (yes, ME! it’s kind of hilarious, really) am a threat. I suppose I believe they have no basis not to like me, but I have been in their shoes too, and I didn’t like me either. 

So, I’m reading books about being a woman and being a boss. And coming into a situation where I am younger than those I am supervising, where I am “new” yet telling people what to do.

I basically feel like I’m learning how to be a good man.

oi.

10 Mar

I know this video is making the rounds in the blogosphere… and I’m a little late to jump on the wagon, but I have to post it… if not for you, then for me. I will need to watch it frequently, I think.

Dr. Randy Pausch, a professor from Carnegie Mellon, gave a [now famous] last lecture series. He then redid the lecture on “Oprah.” But honestly, if you can’t watch the whole lecture series, then watch this one:

I know that I need to remember these points, for sure:

  1. Your critics are trying to make you better.
  2. Work very, very hard.
  3. Value people, not things.
  4. Always have fun.
  5. Have humility.
  6. Allow yourself (and others) to be creative.
  7. Always tell the truth.
  8. Apologize: “Im sorry. It was my fault. How do I make it right?”
  9. No one is all bad… be patient, and wait for the good to come out in people.
  10. Show gratitude… it’s not hard.
  11. Don’t complain or whine. Choose to take your finite time to “play the game hard.”
  12. Luck is where preparation meets oppurtunity.
  13. If you lead your life the right way, your dreams will come to you.

semi-modern, i think.

18 Jan

I was just thinking, I should change the name of my blog to “A Taylored Stitch, A Semi-Modern Bitch.” Modern is too trendy. I definitely don’t encompass modern. I think I can stand with semi-modern though.

I’ve almost finished the book I’ve been reading since the summer. Well, it’s not like I have been continuously reading it… more like I read it for a week, stopped. And then picked it up a few days ago, and now, I’m almost done with it. This is good for several reasons. One: I can put it back on my room mate’s bookshelf and not be one of her hated “book stealers.” Two: I can read something else now without feeling guilty for not finishing it. And three: it’s a good book and I have learned a lot!

Whenever I have been spotted with said book, I receive much comment from those around me… “You’re reading THAT!…It’s so… conservative.” “I’m surprised you’re reading that.” “Isn’t that like, really, conservative?” “She [the author] is kind of crazy, right?” “How could you read that? It teaches capitalism.”

I was sort of confused by these questions, statements… but continued to read, with encouragement from the roomie. Academia can be so predictable … everyone has the same opinion about a book they’ve never read. And even if it was “conservative” or “capitalistic,” I could still learn a lot.

I won’t give a synopsis of it, because mine would be so drab, and I think Wikipedia does a pretty good job of it.  The book is The Fountainhead, by Ayn Rand.

Here’s my favorite part:

“In what act or thought of his has there been a self? What was his aim in life? Greatness – in other people’s eyes. Fame, admiration, envy – all which comes from others. Others dictated his convictions, which he did not hold, but he was satisfied that others believed he held them. Others were his motive power and his prime concern. He didn’t want to be great, but to be thought great. He didn’t want to build, but to be admired as a builder. He borrowed from others in order to make an impression on others.”

Anyone familiar with Ayn Rand, knows her outspoken beliefs on laissez-faire capitalism and individualism. The Fountainhead definitely had these as recurring themes. I didn’t feel as if it were a political tyrade though – more of a really important critique on humanity. I wouldn’t describe myself as a capitalist or an individualist – but I read the above quote as if it were a bible verse for an evangelical christian. I mean, I wrote it in my planner, so I would have it for the whole year, handy. For me, this part wasn’t a political message, but a personal one. It’s what  do everyday: wrap my self-worth up in other’s expectations and ideas of success. Is it individualistic of me to think that sucks? Can I be selfish and selfless at the same time?

“That, precisely, is the deadliness of second-handers. They have no concern for facts, ideas, work. They’re concerned only with people. They don’t ask: ‘Is this true?’ They ask ‘Is this what others think is true?’ Not to judge, but to repeat. Not to do, but to give the impression of doing. Not creation, but show. Not ability, but friendship. Not merit, but pull. What would happen to a world without those who do, think, work, produce?”

Presidential Forum on LGBTQ issues

16 Aug

In case you missed it, Logo and the Human Rights Campaign hosted a forum for the front-running Democratic candidates on August 12th. You can see the entire thing or more brief segments here.

I just watched the whole thing and found it extremely interesting. This issue is something that I feel very strongly about, have read a lot about, and have personal experience with – so the responses were important – and I was looking for something profound. I must say – while I was impressed with many of the candidates statements – I came away feeling like, really? That’s it? I know it takes time – moving items and concerns through politics and government is grueling. But I sort of agree with John Stewart’s analysis:

“…At the debate, the Democratic candidates were trying to reassure the gay community how much they support them, while reassuring the rest of the country that they don’t completely support them.”

Also – the Logo blog: Visible Vote ’08 has great posts with news summaries and updates on all things related to LGBTQ in the 2008 election.  

Holler Back, Girl.

7 Aug

I recently ran across the HOLLABACK SF site. This one is specifically for the San Fran/Bay Area, but there are links to other HOLLABACKs, which can be found for most other major cities. It’s a blog where people (mostly women) post their stories of street and transportation harassment. Some even post pictures (taken with a cell phone, or handy digital camera) of their attacker.

I have sort of come to accept the fact that I will be harassed on the street, groped in the mall, stared at on the bus, followed through a parking lot, stocked down a street. Luckily, for me, it has never really gone beyond that … I always try to stay safe in these situations … never walk alone at night, walk along well-lit streets, carry my cell phone in my hand, look tough. I don’t know why I have accepted this … it’s kind of out of my nature to fall behind someone who I clearly know is an idiot.

That said, I am terrified of street harassement. It’s scary, no matter what time of day, what neighborhood or how many people you are with … it’s so hard to predict what will happen next, if the person is just an asshole or if he (I have never been harrassed by a woman) is actually dangerous.

It also really pisses me off. It makes me feel like trash after someone grabs my ass, or says “Slow down Mommy, you movin’ too fast,” calls my friends and I “white bitches” outside of the 7-11, or follows me to my car in a parking lot while slurring insults. I won’t really accept the fact that I just need to “chill out” about this … it sucks.

And – I cannot just brush it off. Unfortunately, I have never been able to just let something like that slide … I take it and I think about it. Think about how I present myself, how people preceive me, what I could do to blend in more, disappear. What really sucks is that,  if I want to walk home from the bus stop wearing big sunglasses … I should be able to, without someone commenting on my race, class, ethnicity, gender, weight, hair color, body-type, breast size, or style. I mean, shit, people (dudes) just have no idea how demeaning, hurtful, and time-consuming their words can be.

I am convinced that the number one reason dudes do this is because they can. I’m not saying that you (or I) neccessarily let them, but just the way in which gender has created a clear divide in society, where men are on top and women are on the bottom. This, along with many other factors (males being the majority in political leadership, educational leadership, church leadership, coorporate leadership, males receiving higher wages for the same work, etc, etc…) just prooves that patriarchy (especially white patriarchy) is still alive and well.

Endorsement

24 Jul

I am hereby officially endorsing Barack Obama for President.

I love hope and I love peace and I love equality and I love America. Therefore, my vote goes to Obama.